Published by: Jielian Lobete
Date Published: September 24, 2024
Time Published: 2:15 PM
Category: Prose
Theme: Making a difference and being your own person by not letting your parents’ personalities define you
Blood runs thicker than water, they say. And it’s true.
Perhaps if one is to take it literally, it is. And on the other side of the coin, the much more in depth and powerful meaning of it is “family is everything.”
They are your closest blood. They’ve been there since the day you were born. They’ve watched you grow up to be the person you are today. And one would have you believe that it must’ve felt exhilarating. That under their careful supervision, a caterpillar bloomed into a butterfly.
It must’ve felt powerful.
But then of course, it’s not like that’s what every parent or parental figure felt.
There are hardships and obstacles that come with raising a child. It’s not an easy job, and probably never will be. And it’s important to acknowledge that as somebody who has never had any children before, for nobody could understand a parent more than another parent who went through the same thing.
Most of them fight tooth and nail to build a loving, safe, and warm home for their family. Everyday, they wake up early to cook you breakfast to fill your stomach and have you strapped and ready for the day. They go to work, and they shed blood, sweat and tears—possibly more than you can imagine. All for the sake of your life and your future.
But it’s also important to understand that not everyone is perfect.
Not even your parents.
Saying they’re a good parent is one thing. Acknowledging that they’re not perfect is another. And it certainly doesn’t make you a bad person.
It’s easy for a certain trait and behavior to pass from one person to another, especially if you’ve been around them long enough to gain it. But there are ups and downs for this particular claim, and they could be either of the two depending on the personality of the parents. Was it the long and infinite patience of your mother, or was it the undeniable anger issues of your father? It could’ve been the opposite, and it still wouldn’t change a thing. It would rub off on you one way or another, and you may possibly carry them for a long time. It’s like a disease you desperately want to be cured from. A stain you so wish to wash away.
And it will.
All in due time.
And it solely depends on whether you give enough effort to get rid of it or not.
Would you prefer to be told “you’re just like your father” for the rest of your life? Or would you prefer to hear “I’m so glad you’re not like your father.”?
The choices depend on you.
Do not let yourself be imprisoned in the shadows of your parents’ reputation. Break free, fly high, and be your own person.
Your changes, your own behavior, your own personality—it’s all you. Your parents may have played their part, and in the words of the great Hannibal Lecter, they may have fed the caterpillar and whispered through the chrysalis, but what hatches follows its own nature and is beyond them.
REFERENCE:
[1] Probably dogs. (2018, May 18). Hannibal - Chrysalis Scene. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbMbL18WJBI
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