Published by: Jeralaine G. Larios
Date Published: July 9, 2025
Time Published: 12:44 PM
Category: Prose
Subject: You are not everyone´s cup of tea, but that is okay.
I love the idea of being liked by everyone. I love the intention of being adored‚ seen‚ and loved by those people around me. I love it when people are drawn to me‚ no matter how big or small the things I did. Every time I had the opportunity‚ I have always taken it for the sole reason of trying to please them. Just so I could form a connection and bond with everyone.
I tried to fit in to whatever they want me to be. They want a smart one? I studied three times harder. They want a funny one? I joked often and let myself be the joke. They want a pretty one? I learned to put on makeup to cover my insecurities. They wanted this, they wanted that. So, I became someone they asked me to be, yet someone that I do not know who—someone who i can no longer recognize.
I changed so much that I lost the vision of who I really was and still, it was not enough. It would never be enough to be everyone’s favorite.
I would not always be qualified to their standards—No matter how much I persist, no matter how much and what I change about me.
We can’t always greet them with a “Hi” and expect an immediate response like a simple “Hello.” At the end of the day‚ there will always be people that will still dislike us. Maybe‚ even worse—hate us. Everyone has their own preferences‚ and I have come to understand that I would not always be part of their standards.
That’s how life is—We can not always seem please everyone.
And I think it’s perfect that way. It’s better to keep it that way.
I have come to realize that I do not need to prove myself to anyone‚ nor change just to fit into their molds. This time‚ I only need to embrace who I am‚ and who I want to be. I have learned that I am not less worthy if I am not the person that they want to be. I am still who I am‚ worthy of being seen even if I failed to meet their standards.
We are not meant to be praised and appreciated by everyone but that does not mean that your existence is not worth acknowledging.
We are far too real to be liked by everyone—we exist in this world. The idea of being everyone´s person only exists in fiction, and it should stay there—we are all too different, too complicated for that kind of fairy tale, afterall. We are not tied to be the same with everyone else, starting from the way we see things, to the way we talk, act, and think. And that, is the charm of it—we are too different and that is what makes us unique from everyone.
I would always feel a pang on my chest whenever I am rejected. Every time it happens, I always blamed myself for not doing better. I used to ask myself, "Am I not good enough? Am I not capable enough?" But now, rejection does not feel as bad as before. Some things are not meant to stay because it was not for me—And I have come to realize that rejection is redirection. While I may have lost one thing. I also gained many things.
The world would not end if you ever get rejected—it happens for a reason, because there are greater things ahead of you and it opens another path for you, I believe that we should focus on that.
I am not everyone´s cup of tea and I don´t need to be. It is not that I will suddenly disappear from this world just because they do not like me, or if I am not their ideal person, in the end, I am still me—whole, enough, and happy.
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